Posted by Bansi Pandit on February 24, 1998 at 13:58:08:
In Reply to: Modern Hindu Funeral - HELP posted by Mark Matthews on February 24, 1998 at 04:24:42:
: I work with a young guy (20) whose brother (18) was
: (sadly) killed in a car crash last week.He has invited
: me to his brothers funeral which,he has told me,
: involves a couple of hours of prayer at his family home,
: with his brothers body will also be, followed by going
: to the crematorium. I need to know whatever you can
: tell me about what to do (or not), to say (or not),
: to wear etc. and anything else you can think of. This
: guy's family are close, and to be asked is an honour.
: I don't wish to accidentally offend.
: thanks,
: Mark.
Response:
I am sorry to hear the sad news. May Lord shower peace upon the departed atman (soul) and bestow strength to his loved ones to sustain this tragedy!
I am assuming you are asking for information relative to a Hindu funeral service. There is nothing in particular that you have to do or not to do when you attend the service. Your dress, expression, body-language, and words should convey your prayers and sympathy for the family. Wear clothes of darker colors and conservative style. Don’t wear a tie, since the death involves too young a person and the service is being performed at home. Sit in silence, pray deeply and listen attentively to the prayers being said during the service. In brief words, convey your condolences to your friend at the appropriate time. In most part, you should observe alert silence. (Bansi Pandit)