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Re: Marriage between Hindu and Muslim
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Subject: Re: Marriage between Hindu and Muslim
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From: trivedi@weyl.uchicago.edu (Anil Trivedi)
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Date: Tue, 27 Feb 1996 07:30:14 GMT
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Apparently-To: soc-religion-hindu@ncar.ucar.edu
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Newsgroups: soc.religion.hindu
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Organization: University of Chicago
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Veloshnee Govender <govenv@med.und.ac.za> wrote:
>A very good friend of mine is in a relationship with a Muslim and she is
>Hindu. She would have posted this article herself but unfortunately she
>does not have access to a computer. I am sure that anyone who has been
>involoved in such a relationship can understand her present dilemma.
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>I know both her and her boyfriend very well since we studied at the same
>univerity together. They are very committed to one another and a
>relationship like their's is very rare to find. At times I find myself
>envying what they have together.
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>They would like to get married but according to Islam she would have to
>convert. Since she is very committed to Hinduism, conversion to Islam is
>not an option that she is willing to consider. Is it possible for them to
>marry without either one of them converting??? Can such a marriage work???
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>She would like to hear your views on this matter, especially from those in
>a relationship such as hers.
It is difficult to advise others without knowing them closely.
I have known a few friends who have gone through similar dilemnas
(Hindu women, and non-Hindu men). It works best when at least one
of the parties (or both) is totally and sincerely uninterested in
religious matters. At minimum, I would like to know the following
about your friend's situation:
1. Where are they living right now? Is it an Islamic country?
2. Where do they plan to live?
3. Is the man "committed" to the conversion requirement of Islam?
Is he willing to go through a civil ceremony and tell his family
and relatives: "I won't convert, but nor would I press her to
convert."
An unhappy person, e.g., one forced to leave his/her religion,
is unlikely make a great partner in the long run.
Their relationship blossomed when each was free to pursue his/her
religious convictions. It would be unwise to change this. If the
man cannot stand up for her now, he does not love her enough.
A coward also does not make a great partner in the long run.
-Anil
